WHY?!

I think we've all heard or seen a story about the guy that gets a genie and asks for something and gets something totally different that what he had in mind. That old saying "be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it." I have this problem, and it seems that what I asked for has been misconstrued and is now something completely different that what I wanted. I asked for an egg and I got a goose-egg.
I know what I want, but how do I ask for it without it getting misconstrued and frustrating both of us? I fully put it on the line last night and it seems that the more I say the worse the situation gets. I know you feel like you're backed into a corner, I do too. I can only do so much and it feels like it is never enough. Never enough patience, never enough time, never enough cooking and cleaning and picking up. Never enough work done, nothing is ever enough. I feel like last year, it was enough that I was there and willing to help. Now it's more like I'm expected to do so much more than I'm cabable of. I know that it is not your intent. I'm not blaming you, I allowed it to become this way, it's my fault, I see that. I am only asking for your help with the family. I don't intend to make you do anything that you are not willing to do, I think you know that of me. But when I feel like you can't be 'inconvenienced' even so much as to help me pack some things or unload the dishwasher while I cook dinner, I start to feel cornered. Like there is no other option for me but to make you help me. I'm sure you have noticed how much packing I have done the last week. None, because I got absolutely no help when I started packing. So, I quit packing. I am willing to bust my ass for you, but you have to show me that you can too. I'm not going to do everything for you.
I'm almost to the point that I'm just going to quit putting Dill in time-outs because I feel like I'm the only one that does. It can't be just me that does the disciplining, I'm sure you've noticed how much shit he gives you when I'm not around or when he thinks I can't hear him. All it takes is me looking at him and he quits. It's because I don't put up with it, and yet you let him get away with yelling at you and being very disrespectful to you. Cheyenne doesn't get away with it. Why are you still babying him? I think a child at any age should NEVER be allowed to backtalk to their mother, ever! I'd be like, "Tell me 'no' again and I'll show you NO"
Why do you let him slack? Why do you not stand up for yourself? WHY?!?!?!