Love....

I was told once, by a very wise person, that love cannot be earned. It has to be given. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you make someone hate you. Feelings are not something you can make or manefest in someone else. You can do things that might have an impact on what that person is thinking about but ultimately it is that persons decision that will make them feel the way they do. To make a person angry is to control them. Likewise, to make a person love, is controling them. By nature people do not like to be controlled, thereby causing bitterness and animosity for anyone who presumes to control them. It is strange tho when you consider abused women that stay in an abused relationship, seem to do it because they need the abuse to feel like they are being loved. To break that down, they feel like they must have both ends of the spectrum to gain the ultimate feeling of being loved. It really makes no sense to me, because I do not feel that way. It's like having pain to know what pleasure feels like, uh, NO. I know what pleasure feels like and prefer to avoid the pain all-together. To know what pain is, you must experience it. To know what love is, you must experience it. They have come up with several definitions for words like that but can you really explain love in words? I think it is best explained in feelings and even better by feeling it first hand (and no not with your own hand).

"Love is best served in the finest china with a side of fantasy and rainbows for dessert." -Jizr 2005